interracial marriages

Why do many women, especially Filipinas, marry foreigners? Is it because they are tired of the difficult life in a third-world country like the Philippines and would want to experience a more abundant and pleasant life? Is it because they want to marry a rich man who can provide all their needs? Is it because they want to have goodlooking kids with blue eyes, blond hair, and fair skin? Is it because they want to go to another country, especially in the US or in Europe, and be able to experience autumn and winter seasons? Is it because they just want to get money out of the men, even if it meant marriage to some really old, dying, but wealthy individuals?Is it because they wanted to have green cards and it's the easiest thing to do or what we commonly refer to as "marriage for convenience"? Or is it really because of the word "LOVE"?
Different people have different reasons for marrying a foreigner. It's not unheard of that many women do it just for the sake of money. Will it give you peace of mind? Are you sure you will never be unhappy? Is money everything needed to be happy? Have you heard of rich people who are often anxious, depress, had gone crazy, or even commit suicide? Is love not important at all? I am quiet saddened because many foreigners think most, if not all, Filipinas are hookers or just after the money. I hate that perception. It reflects a bad image to us Filipinas and for the country as well. We may be poor but we should at least have that dignity with us if we want foreigners to respect us.
Anyway, there are good women also who marry because they really fell in love with these guys and nothing else. This is what I want Filipinas who wanted to marry men of another race to emulate. Marriage with a foreigner is not a piece of cake. It require love, patience, and understanding to hold on. In one way or another personalities would really clash no matter how hard you try to understand one another. But if the foundation is based on love and friendship, nothing should go the wrong way.
Marriage is a sacred thing. For me, it's a lifelong commitment. I don't believe in divorce. My argument is that, you made a vow to be together in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, in times of happiness and in times of sorrow. Why bend that vow? Couples should take it seriously. Get to know your partner better before hooking up. Be honest to the guy if you want the guy to be honest to you. I do believe in "karma". What you do to others will eventually bounce back to you.
I am writing this to convey a message to Filipinas like me. It's time to change most foreigner's perception about us. We are crying so much for women empowerment, right? So, why not work our way to achieve what we want rather than expect men to give it to us?
Hope you get my message...
April 18, 2007